Men have problems just like women do. Some of the things that we would never think they worry about they do. But there are a specific group of issues that can be summed up under one Urban Dictionary term and those are White Boy Problems. These are issues that often frustrate women. They also raise a lot of questions with non-white boys who simply cannot understand this method of thinking at all. To them White Boy Problems translate to being a coward. If you don't think you have ever had to deal with White Boy Problems I am sure you probably just over looked them. This can typically happen if you are a white girl who has never dated a non-white boy. For you it's just the way things are, it's not your fault, you were raised on it, and of course you wouldn't know any better. Unfortunately for the rest of us IE: a Latina like me these problems are not normal to us and they are enough to drive us a little crazy. It's like there should be a guide book on how to translate and understand White Boy Problems for us. It's not racist or anything....plus there are plenty of books out there on dating black men, Hispanic men, Arabic men etc. Until then here are a few White Boy Problems that are very common as a beginners reference brochure.
Problem #1 Momma Drama
First of all I am not talking about "baby momma" problems those are more of a problem with us ethnic people. I am talking about the White Boy's actual momma. In a minority household we do sometimes create Mommy's boy's but eventually those boys grow up and discover vagina. Therefore they will put that before their mom's because it is so awesome. Not white boys! What happens when a White Boy falls for a girl his momma doesn't like.....nothing. He won't say, "mind your own mom that's my lady." Instead he will let his momma bully him often to the point of letting go of the girl because he couldn't dream of upsetting her in such a way. He doesn't stand up to her even though he wants to and if he does he will end up calling her to say sorry a million times. You may not even ever find out he stood up for you. He is miserable just because he can't cut the apron string. White Boy Problems!
Problem # 2 Anxiety Attacks
Stress is enough to make a White Boy cry. They don't handle it very well and struggling is something they aren't really sure how to get through. Sometimes it gets so bad they might commit suicide. Think about it how many minority men kill themselves over work stress? Barely any do. Girl problems, family problems, issues with their kids; all things they just don't know how to deal with it. They just can't deal with other people. They need to take time alone to find themselves. White Boys don't want to talk about anything but they want to deal with everything 110%. However that involves facing reality and that isn't very popular with White Boys. In a minority family everyone would tell the guy to suck it up and be a man. Not White Boys. Some of them will have to get medicated and others will let it break them. Either way it's confusing and it doesn't make sense. White Boy Problems!
Problem #3 Popularity Issues
White Boys don't like to have conflict and they want everyone to be happy with them all the time. This affects all decisions that they make in life. They are so worried about what everyone else thinks about what they are doing it will stress them out (see #2). It's all about keeping a smile on everyone's faces. They don't want to loose popularity at work, with friends, or at home. White boys will dump girls they love, pick up hobbies they hate, and follow politics they don't understand just to be part of the in crowd. They have an inner need for approval from the masses in order to function. It's really girlie and stupid but it happens everyday. White Boy Problems!
Problem #4 The Madonna Whore Complex
Most guys out there want a lady in the streets but a freak in the streets. Let's face it guys like sex and if a girl can keep them satisfied she is a keeper. Well that is not always true when it comes to White Boys. The CRC has raised them to think that lustful sex is wrong. Freaks they have been taught are bad news. So if they are getting too much enjoyment from their lady friend they will start to question it. They will beat themselves up because this is a bad thing and no open should be so comfortable with their sexuality like that. A White Boy will even not marry a woman because the sex was too good. There has to be something evil about it and God would never reward them for being such pigs. Never mind that there is probably just chemistry which is a good thing because that is pretty much anti-cheating insurance. White Boy Problems!
Problem # 5 Feelings
There are two types of issues when it comes to White Boys and feelings. The first is they are too in touch with their feelings. They cry too much and it just gets to be a little much to deal with on a day to day basis. While it's great to hear I love you there is a point when it can be overboard. Hello what kind of guys turn into stalkers? White Boys! Then there are the other White Boys who don't want to express themselves to women. They will tell everyone else how they feel about her but won't say a word to her about it. Not a call, a text, or an email. It's like they think women have esp and know what move they should make next. They use their friends as messengers and never get down to the business of explaining how they feel to the women herself. In minority cultures if you want a woman, even if you messed up with her before a man will say to her, "Hey baby I was thinking about you and you're it." Oh no not White Boys they will just wait for some kind of Divine intervention to make everything fall into place. Often time it doesn't and they are left alone wondering why? White Boy Problems!
The problems I listed are just a few of many White Boy Problems that exist. They were just the top five that I have encountered in life. It is all very confusing and there is no way to figure it out over night. If you love a White Boy and think you are alone when you are going over these same things in your head; you're not. There are tons of us out there just as frustrated and confused as you are at this very moment. Also don't go asking your Black, Latino, or other minority guy friends for advice.....they won't get it. They will just say that he is a coward and you shouldn't give him any attention. It's a better idea to ask your White Boy friends. They understand and relate to all of these issues. The advice they give will translate much better. So when it comes to White Boy Problems just take a deep breath and relax......it's not you; it's them.
